Well, well, well BWAN family. It’s a beautiful Sunday isn’t it? Filled with daisies and cupcakes, and, as expected, copious amounts of hatorade that never ceases to take a vacation.
Of course, as most of the free world knows by now, Kristen Stewart visited the set of Cosmopolis Thursday night, and my, oh my, how the bitter bile of derision took flight once again.
At this juncture, it seems spittle could have its own membership in the Ten Million Mile Frequent Flier Club in just about any airline in the world. (Does Air Canada have such a program? We wonder.)
For this post, we’re going to move forward a bit from our ongoing theme of projection. To be honest, we had kind of wanted to spend time refuting some of the more outlandish ninnyosophies that surfaced this morning (the Kristen set pics were a Summit set ploy to take away from Harry Potter, The Royals; Bear is a PR tool), but they’re just so damn tiresome, and there are just so many of them, that to wade through the mountain of bullshit would have been a Sisyphean task.*
Before we begin, let’s have a refresher course? When last we left you, we were talking about the many ways ninnies ascribe negative attributes felt about themselves and project them onto Kristen. She just happens to be an easy target for them because: a) she’s not really within earshot; and b) well, she has what “they” want (or at least think they could somehow attain.)
Going back to Freud, projection is a psychological defense mechanism whereby “emotions or excitations which the ego tries to ward off are ‘spit out’ (hehe, spit) and then felt as being outside the ego…perceived in another person.” It is also expressed by projecting false accusations, information, etc., onto an individual for the sole purpose of maintaining a self-created illusion.”
Instead of looking at things in a rational manner and accepting them as they are, ninnies seem to be stuck on Platoform 1 and ¾ of the Kübler-Ross model of The Five Stages of Grief;
That second hurtle is a little difficult for them to jump over.
They seem to be clinging to a sort of limbo between denial and anger, and claiming some sense of ownership of Rob in doing so.
Now, last WE checked, “ownership” of another human being was illegal in most civilized societies today. Ninnies, however, seem to think this doesn’t apply to them.
While we know they are not talking about actual “physical” ownership of Rob as a person (well, some we really do wonder about), they certainly feel they are ENTITLED to ownership of Rob’s career and life choices, including who he elects to spend his private time with.
It’s as if they are the exalted ones, the “true” fans (accordingly, if you are a fan of Kristen’s, you cannot be a true fan of Rob), the ones who can, with a mere tweet, control what he does in his life.
Somehow, they seem to think that Rob, by being in a relationship with Kristen, is forever tying himself to Edward.
“He’ll ruin his career,” they moan. “She’s nothing but a clinger!” they lament. “He’ll never break away from Twilight if he stays with HER,” they crow.
Um. Isn’t that what he did with GREAT success in Water for Elephants? Isn’t that what he’s doing NOW with Cosmopolis? How is maintaining a relationship, with a person ninnies happen to
Just who are these fans to make these judgment calls for him? Last we checked, Nick and Stephanie were taking that 10% commission (that’s 10% EACH, btw) to help him in moving forward WITH HIS career. And while they might, from time to time, offer what is likely advice on personal matters, don’t you think, if they thought Kristen was an impediment to his career, they’d advise against him being with her?
Don’t you think, the people who understand MOST how this business works, who want to see him succeed beyond Twilight (after all, money he earns is money in their pockets), they would tell him to step away (or would have told him not to pursue it in the first place), if it would cause him harm?
And do you honestly believe that the person who refuses to get a publicist because he doesn’t “like to be controlled,” is allowing anybody, including a chintzy and often desperate-looking production company, to DICTATE HIS PERSONAL LIFE?
Somehow, ninnies didn’t get this message.
They snort on about what he needs to do in order to succeed. But succeed in whose mind, exactly? That of the major collective outside of the Twilight world, or theirs and theirs alone? And exactly WHAT experience do these females have IN the business of making movies and of Hollywood operations? It seems a bit myopic that THEIR approval should be the only one that matters, but that’s what happens when they project their self-hatred onto Kristen, and in so doing, fabricate some sense of ownership of Rob and his life.
One person, in describing her opinion of Thursday night’s goings on, went so far as to call him “our Rob?”
“Our?” Can you present a Certificate of Ownership to go with that “our?”
Yes. Yes WE did.
Believe it or not, there are plenty of people out there who don’t care in the least who he is dating.
And we are NOT referring to you,
Vanessa "Strictly Rob".
They just want to see him as a performer and judge him ON THAT MERIT. Likewise, much to many ninnies’ disdain, fans of both Rob’s and Kristen’s are I-N-T-E-L-L-I-G-E-N-T enough to be able to S-E-P-A-R-A-T-E fiction from reality, and Edward and Bella from Robert and Kristen. Most Rob and Kristen supporters (yes, even those who would be “sheep”) are able to rationalize that Rob, and Kristen, are two individual people, with individual careers, who happen to be in a relationship TOGETHER.
They don’t lay claim to what he should or should not do with regard to his life, and while some do make funny and sarcastic comments about a desire for a “golden child” (and yes, even a few BWAN contributors roll our eyes at that one… hey, we don’t agree on EVERYTHING), there’s a colossal difference between THAT sort of “wouldn’t it be cute if” kind of projecting, and the absolute displacement of emotion ninnies seem to have when it comes to their desires for his life.
Just in case you don’t believe us, here are some actual quotes.
“Rob is blind enough not to see he is being used by a famewhore. C’mon she wasn’t that dramatic with Michael.”
“He could be further along, but he’s not. If he misses out on [sic] Buckly (the real one), it’s because of her.”
“The choices people make determine the way they are looked at. No one here looks good. And by no one, I mean him.”
So our question then, is twofold:
1. What claim do ninnies have on Rob that others don’t have?
2. After ALL of this, with all of the supposed PR machinations, and conspiracy plots, and alleged lies, and other schemes they dream up on a daily basis (go look at that projection definition again), how can they, as people, continue to support him and his career?
We can tell you right now that were it to come out that Rob – the adorable young man, raised by two incredibly sincere, gracious and stable parents – had bartered himself in such a way as to allow his personal life become a Public Relations joke, we’d drop him like a hot potato.
We did as much for Tom Cruise (in whom as a fan we were much less invested) after the Oprah couch-jumping incident.
Further, what does it say about yourself as a person that you would think so poorly of an individual – and one who has proven himself time and time again to be upstanding in every way – that he would allow himself to be manipulated in such a manner?
The mere fact that ninnies can only rectify things by creating X-Files worthy plot devices in order to cling to their “ownership” of him speaks volumes.
The boy’s not mine, not ours, not yours, and not the "MAN’S". He belongs to no one but himself – and a certain lovely brunette who visits him on set, cares for his dog, and bakes him loquat crumbles.
*Sisyphean Task: From Greek mythology, Sisyphus was a king who was punished for tricking the and sent to live in the afterworld where his eternal sentence was to roll a huge boulder up a steep hill, but before he could reach the top, the rock would roll back down, forcing him to begin again. A Sisyphean task means an endless task of futility.