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Oh, Ninnies! Such petty little creatures.

Completely wrapped up in their irrational thoughts and negative way of dealing with the world (per usual). And the hate. Oh, the hate!

A few little pap pics surface showing Kristen coming into (or was that out of) a yoga studio, and my, oh my, how the insults did fly.

No sooner had the pap site sent the pics out than ninnies were letting soar the spittle about her clothes, her body, the supposed reasons for her taking yoga, and even her car? Blah. Blah. Blah.

“She looks like a boy,” they say. “Her car is dirty,” they nag, “She has no ass at all,” they bellow.

What we at BWAN (nay, what any RATIONALLY-thinking person) will never understand, is WHY, if a person does not like someone, do they INCESSANTLY make negative remarks about that person? And we’re not talking a mere sarcastic jab here or there. No sirree, we’re talking a NEVERENDING STREAM of tweets and tumblrs and blog posts day-in and day-out that are filled with degrading remarks...and all about a celebrity they don’t know, nor will ever likely meet, and all because she may (or may not) *insert eyeroll here* be dating the object of their fantasies?

What sense does it make that they read the books and screenplays of the films SHE is in? After all, they claim to have no interest in them and say they refuse to support her efforts, yet here they are time and again, IMMERSING THEMSELVES in her projects, going so far as to try and force some kind of make-believe competition between her and her boyfriend?

“Her films fail,” they claim. “No one in Hollywood wants her,” they assert. “She has nothing booked past Snow White.” (Of course, far be it for US to remind them that at this point, Rob has nothing in the works past Cosmopolis, but what’s a minor detail like that to a ninny?)

They watch, repeatedly, the Twilight films, films they contend they cannot stand, all for the sake of tweeting out commentary that goes along the line of “I want to rip her face off their kissing sucks so bad,” "She only has one expression,” “How can anyone stand to be near her?”

“Why is she on the cover of that magazine?” they vomit. “Her PR team must be working overtime to keep her even minimally relevant now that she’s not near Rob.”

Oh yes. Yes they are.

And on and on it goes.
We understand that it is a free world and that people have the right to express themselves however they so chose. We also understand that it is perfectly good and well to NOT LIKE SOMEONE. Fine. End of. But is what they are doing really “all right?”
We don’t know about you, but most RATIONAL people we know don’t sit around all day and make crude remarks about someone they don’t like unless there is a deeper issue at work. A much deeper issue, in fact, and one that deals with a great deal of self-loathing.

What other reason is there to trash and demean someone so endlessly unless it keeps you from having to deal with negative feelings you have about yourself?

We at BWAN knew many would be curious about this kind of behavior, especially since the more reasoned (and reasonable) folks we all know seem to abide by the ages-old idea that negativity born is negativity worn. Simply put, the more negative you are about other people, the more that negativity is a reflection of yourself.

Of course, we weren’t the folks to come up with that construct. Nope, for that you can point the finger at der Vater of psychoanalysis, dear old Sigmund Freud.

Yup, he of the slip and the sofa was one of the first in the study of psychology to come up with the concept of psychological projection; namely, that we asperse onto others those things we hate most about in ourselves. According to wikipedia, psychological projection can also be established as “a means of obtaining or justifying certain actions that would normally be found atrocious or heinous. This often means projecting false accusations, information, etc., onto an individual for the sole purpose of maintaining a self-created illusion.”

Sound familiar, anyone?

That’s not to say that folks on the R/K side of the fence don’t project, as well, but their type of projection runs more along the lines of what psychologists call romantic transference (and we WILL get to that in another post).

In short, projection is a defense mechanism, one that keeps our ego squarely in check (or so we think), all the while allowing our subconscious minds (or IDs, to the psychologically-inclined) to continue to self-contaminate.

That’s not to say that if I were to say “Kristen is a skinny bitch,” that I believe myself to be a “skinny bitch,” so much as my ego-self, blatant self-critic that it is, can’t handle the negative feelings I have about my own body shape or facial features (things that keep me unattractive to the object of my fantasy, or perhaps even a real potential romantic partner. Instead of dealing with this self-loathing head-on, I broadcast those negative feelings onto someone else – someone who is an easy target, who is prey to me because she is the best and easiest avenue onto which to project.

So, in this manner, projection is used as a means of not only justifying their ongoing hatred towards Kristen, but to feel better about themselves, as well.

One person we know who is in the field of mental health even went so far as to say that this type of behavior is addictive, that it creates a chemical reaction in the brain whereby people are compelled to react negatively to the object of their projections because it boots their serotonin and gives them a high.

Say whaaa?

You read that right, folks. Hating on Kristen Stewart is an addiction.

“It’s the same feeling many substance abusers seek when they start taking drugs or getting drunk. It may be a subtle shift in the body’s chemical makeup, but at the end of the day, the increased levels of serotonin created by making these negative comments are likely equal to enjoying a cocktail or two, or for some, smoking a few cigarettes. Then, as with any other substance abuse, it is a slippery slope towards addiction in that the body’s need for serotonin continues to increase, so people do what they can to fulfill that craving. Once that need kicks in, the compulsion to act on the behavior gets continually stronger. Finding a group people who are in the same mode of addiction with you only fuels the fire because your behavior is justified among peers, even though it is against the norm.”
Whoa! Those are some Deep Thoughts, there, Ted Handy.

What saddens us MOST of all (truly, it is sad) about this particular brand of ninnie, is many of these women are mothers of young children; children who are likely to see this type of behavior and learn that hateful remarks are okay.

So, in an era where bullying at school is at an all-time high, these people are leading (children) by their example by telling the world that it is okay to hate, even if who they are hating on is themselves.

We believe these people need to get out more, or try new things, make new (non-online) friends in order to find some kind of fulfillment in life since obviously what they ARE doing isn’t working very well.

If not, they can always take a page out of the Stuart Smalley book of life and start each morning with a daily affirmation: “I’m Good Enough, I’m Smart Enough, and Doggone It, People Like Me.”
Maybe then they’ll be able to set their Kristen hate aside and see her for who she really is (and through Rob’s eyes), as an incredibly-beautiful, unique, talented and smart young woman who struggles with her own identity at times, and wants nothing more to succeed in the world and care for those around her.

However, we certainly will not be holding our breath on that one.