This One is for Everyone

For those who haven’t been subsisting in the mossy confines of pill bug habitats under a rock somewhere for the past sixty hours, let’s take a brief moment to fill you in on the goings-on.

A few days ago, a young woman tweeted out that she planned to attend a christening at which “Rob Pattinson was to be the godfather.” Rob and Kristen supporters squeed. Ninnies did their usual snarling, lurking on her twitter, tweeting out photos of her, claiming it all to be part of the greater Summit/Brit Pack conspiracy (Summit owns them all now, don’t you know?), because she is in some way related to or at least friends with the Sturridge family, and it is supposedly a Sturridge child that is being christened.

Fast forward about a day, and two people tweeted out a Rob and Kristen sighting at a place called Berkeley Square in London.

The fandom started stirring, with the usual musings taking place on what could be going on.

No less than an hour later, all hell broke loose when a 14-year-old girl tweeted out that she had just seen Kristen Stewart and Robert Pattinson at a “party” that was going on across the street from her house. The party was in celebration of a christening that supposedly had taken place some time the same day.

Lo and behold, the girl also had photos. Photos that she posted on the Internet. Now, we at BWAN were a bit skeptical at first, but after looking, we can say that yes, we clearly see Kristen, and we clearly see Arthur Sturridge (Tom’s brother), and we also see who we believe to be Marcus Foster (remember, the same Marcus Foster in whose video Kristen starred?)

As could be predicted, the ninnies’ first reaction was the very expected squawking about “What was SHE doing there?” and criticizing Kristen’s choice of clothes (do you think she planned “oh, I think I’ll throw in a christening outfit” when she packed?), her hair (extensions for her movie), etc. They screeched about how the ONLY reason she was invited was because she co-starred with Tom in “On The Road,” that she cannot possibly be there for Rob, nor did Rob go to London for her, but only for the christening, per their six-week “PR” agreement (we have our own theories on that, which we’ll summarize in a later post).

But then, after a few peaceful moments of enjoying the photos, the insidiousness of the entire fandom broke out. Squawking was everywhere., especially when the girl posted a twitlonger about her overall fan encounter with Rob and Kristen.

Of course, the ninnies jumped right on her, first making fun of her for crying when she met Rob and Kristen (she’s FOURTEEN), then later accusing her of lying, claiming that the events, as she recounted, could NEVER have happened. Were they there? Did they see it? Do they know her personally? Did they witness the encounter in person? No. No. No. And No. Then how in the fuck to they know exactly what happened? Keep in mind members of this same group have cried when THEY met Rob in person, and at least one among them cried in mourning when she saw Kristen in Marcus’ video. So, making fun of a fourteen-year-old girl for crying when she had an unexpected fangirl moment? Really? That’s rich coming from women who are at least twice her age, many of whom are MOTHERS to young children themselves. One of the most insidious we know to be the mother of a ten-year-old boy. In our eyes, there’s not much of a stretch there between ten and fourteen, so we have to question this person’s morals given the kinds of things she was saying about this girl yesterday. What would she do if these people were talking about her child like that? That’s what we thought.

But we digress.

While we at BWAN are a bit nonplussed at the ninnies’ behavior, we recognize this kind of BS is just par for the course for them. As is always the case in ninniedom, anyone who has an encounter that goes against what they want to believe is automatically lying. Meh. Carry on. Oh well.

What we are MORE disgusted with is the number of those claiming to be in the “Robsten” camp who pursued this young girl with a vengeance, attacking her for not posting enough photos, making promises to them if she would DM her, asking for more and more and more and more and more.

Here’s a clue for everyone: CALM YO SHIT!

NOBODY OWES YOU ANYTHING.

It’s not your place to know every insignificant detail. It’s not your place to send demanding - and DEMEANING - tweets to this CHILD - asking her to give you more.

She tweeted her experience. She shared a photo or two. IS THAT NOT ENOUGH?

When YOU - FANS - are begging for more, sending threatening tweets, hacking her facebook site, threatening her over the Internet because she is not giving you what you want - YOU ARE GOING TOO FAR.

Many of the people who are doing this - like the ninnies who made fun of her - ARE ADULTS.

So, here are a few hints:

- When you send tweets to her demanding that she release more - YOU HAVE GONE TOO FAR.

- When you call this child “bitch” because she doesn’t give you what YOU want - YOU HAVE GONE TOO FAR.

- When you making threats against her - saying she better release more photos - or she’ll die - YOU HAVE GONE TOO FAR.

- When you manage to get the address of her home, then look it up at google maps and send it out over the Internet so you can put it all in context (yes, we’re talking to you cotedetexas) - YOU HAVE GONE TOO FAR.

In fact, you are stooping to levels of the ninnies in your bouts of insidiousness.

If you are so invested in two people as a celebrity couple that your entire life revolves around seeing photos of them holding hands, you need to have a reality check. Get a clue, step away from the computer, and find something real in your own life.

None of us in this fandom is entitled to “more.” None of us deserves “special” treatment from other people because we demand it of them. And none of us really needs to know each individual detail of Rob’s and Kristen’s personal lives. It is reactions exactly like this - reactions that Kristen herself calls “fiending” which is the reason why Rob and Kristen take such closeted measures to keep every bit of their relationship PRIVATE.

It is THEIRS to share as they so wish, NOT YOURS to take at your demanding.
Thank goodness, this girl has been able to handle most of the hate directed towards her with great aplomb, but it doesn’t excuse peoples’ behavior to begin with.

Perhaps what we should demand of ourselves - and each other - is a bit of perspective.

Carry on.

Oh, and P.S. Candy, Candy. Don’t you know better by now not to claim things that can be debunked - like getting special invitations to a “red carpet yacht party” to which any Joe or Jane can buy a ticket for $45 out of the New York Post? Yeah. Keep tryin.’